Having a sense-of-humor is great. It took a long time to really understand, yet it is wondrous to be able to laugh about life. Being a part of the Goth Scene for several years, I did not know what a Goth was until someone said I was one at age twelve or so. I remember walking through the halls when this guy made the announcement. He might have been Goth so it did not bother me too much. The realization to laugh about comments did not occur until much later.
After that I was curious about this whole Goth thing. As a child I was a rocker. On the cusp of maturity, childish Def Leopard CDs lost my interest. The rhyming pattern of several songs hid a lot of content. Even now I listen to the songs and realize everything I was missing. Being a child once I am positive kids do not know what they are talking about even when they are totally positive they know what they are talking about.
Time to grow up I cut my long hair to an A-Line Bob and began listening to the Alternative Station. Occasionally a Model in local hair shows they dyed my hair Hazelnut which looked black in contrast to my complexion. I wanted to look like Professional Models and Hair Stylist; ergo, a short-sleeve black mock turtle neck and slacks. My parents did not like black clothing. They would buy one black smock when getting an aqua smock. Black slacks and denim skirt. After a couple years of meeting Goths several parents forbade them to wear black.
Who am I? I am a person with interests in fashion, arts and politics. As a child I was in choir and spent four years playing clarinet. My family is Upper Middle-Class though stuck between a wealthy side-of-the-family that makes me seem poor and a majority that makes me seem rich.
I wake up to birds chirping while flying between the trees. Last Spring a hummingbird quickly fluttered its wings, suspended in the air inches from my face. My parents are overprotective though fighting against their instincts. One time I went camping with a few friends. They let me go camping though calling the police when my car broke down.
At the end of the day I am happy about life and I am thankful for all the people who see me for who I am. They kept me safe when struggling against everyone in attempts to become an adult.
The world is cruel. Films should never associate young girls to promiscuity, every once in awhile the girl was Goth. Though everyone should know film and television are not reality, several people still think it reflects life or get more ideas than realizing it is wrong.
Dangerous living out there with everyone, something in a show becomes a curiosity amongst strangers. Usually television and films hinge on drama not humor. Sticking to comedy and anime anywhere at anytime someone might be out to avenge a fictional character in a setting not even remotely close to our neighborhood and I do not know the reference.
I resented labels and was positive this only affects Goths. As years go by I realize this happens to everyone. At some point in time an actual Goth was seedily unkind to them. It is not just a response to a renegades flashing across the news screen for less than half a minute.
It is weird thinking about how people respond to me. Their eyes and gestures change with every new piece of information. Is there anything a person can do without receiving apathetic criticism anymore? I am half Basque. Basque means combination of French and Spanish. People say, "French are dirty and Spaniards are Mexicans." People say all kinds of things about Mexicans. I watched a sensitivity video with full-time employees in Mexico living similarly to homeless people in the United States. My family came here legally. Spain is on the other side of the Atlantic Ocean. A handful of buildings are tiled in gold. Several people express my niche in life must be cleaning up someone else's mess. I should be fine homeless.
Within the shifting perception add Goth. This is my life. It was not until getting older and listening to a conversation between a Former Boss and several Employees, humor began to make sense. He was telling an awful joke about running over someone on the way to work. As a joke no one would think he could hit-and-run. No one laughed. He went to the Receptionist and then a Colleague. Wondering through the office he found a couple Computer Technicians. With the help of a woman with a glorious fake laugh he finally got someone to snicker.
At first it bothered me. I felt apathetic. When a joke is funny people laugh. Later it occurred to me the situation was funny. He wanted someone to laugh at his joke. Not because he was the Boss or a playing a weird power game. It is polite to laugh at someone's joke, even if not getting the joke. Laughing acknowledges we know he is a decent person. When someone makes an awkward assumption laughing dismisses what they said about me when realizing it is absurd.
Sometimes it still bothers me when someone's response is a precautionary method. It relates to what someone else has done, yet I would not leave my guard down. Laugh it off. Despite the myriad of judgments people throw my direction I am still a cushy bundle of overprotected over-resemblance to a Disney flick.
Every time a person laughs become free of assumptions. Some assumptions are grand and assist provide motivation to go further in life. Some assumptions are nasty. Just because of past experience or preference in clothing does not mean I hide in the shadows; cry under the night sky; race motorcycles with a death wish, or lash out at the world in a flurry of hopelessness.
Laughing creates distance between me and negative people who think they have the right to punish me for what another person has done. Laughing frees me to go to work and occasionally give advice to worrying parents wanting to help their Goth Child who is spending too much time at home, almost hiding from the world. I am at least at work or office. I am free to write and better myself. I go to acting workshops and build a future; instead of, running away or becoming overly defensive. Laughing takes most of the sting away.
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Thursday, January 27, 2011
Goth Tolerance
Being Goth offers the way of life promised in the United States Constitution. While majority vote wins, minority rights are protected.
People outside the Goth Scene wonder what is going on and why it appears everyone is gay, Satanists, vampires or had difficult childhoods? This is a misconception caused by overwhelming support for being open-minded and tolerant. When thinking of the many ways people chose to live life, we are a minority in one sense or another. Should I take away someone else's rights and hope to be protected by the larger group?
On the internet and media forums it appears most think all Goths are gay or lesbians. This is not true. In fact, the overall Goth population follows basic statics applied to all large groups. Most live a heterosexual lifestyle. There are philosophical deterrents against anyone attempting to harm or condemn homosexual lifestyle. One deterrent is the belief homophobes are outraged by homosexuals because conservative values make it impossible to "come out-of-the-closet."
This is only one deterrent. Not wanting to give the impression Goths are going to start fights over beliefs, I would like to tell a story about how Goths instigate social precedence. When I was a teen, it was discovered, a guy was harassing gay men. They found parks gays preferred and beat them up because they were tired of men flirting or touching them inappropriately.
Totally unacceptable to most Goths, not for homophobic, they attacked anonymous people. They did not make a direct attempt to resolve issues with the person or people harassing them. This is a sign of weakness and continues hostility beyond the two parties causing an issue. People are abrasive when people get hostile. In addition, they might be labeled a homophobic; however, no one understands why they could not say, "This is my space. You cannot go around touching people inappropriately and definitely not me, because I am not okay with this." (Not too mention I've heard cupping a man's gentiles with a hand is to verify if they are a sex-worker. If you are not, they need to know, even if resorting to violence.)
Sure, it is somewhat normal for a Goth, gay or straight, to get drunk and decide to fondle as many people as possible. There is no real reason. Goths tend to be knowledgeable of other cultures habits. At most, standing up to aggressive people causes a verbal discourse with gossip and catty maneuvering. However, I don't want to be sexually harassed by women or men. It is valid to resist intrusive people who ignore personal boundaries. In allowing people to live as they will it is an automatic expectation they will do the same in return. Of course, there are spinoff subgroups deciding they will go against everyone, including Goths, because it is what they want to do. It becomes confusing after a long time.
Tolerance is incredibly dissimilar to accepting everyone so much a person will do what everyone else is doing. There is an ethical line in Goth Culture. Most people believe in tolerance and being accepting of other people's cultures. Several people even go so far in an opposing direction they become ignored. Beating up people for no reason even though their group largely supports attacking other groups is essentially the same. People want to say it is different, but not really.
In the example of voyeurism and identifying people as wanting sex sends a message of enjoying sex. There are other people who already found they like sex also wanting sex and not get charged. It appears to be a happy resolution and finding new friends. This is also true in violence. It does not depend on who was violent or for what reason. You like violence and so do they. They found a new auxiliary. What a joyous occasion of finding compatible friendship. I enjoy hiking, difficult finding fellow hikers, if anyone is interested.
Most Goths prefer keeping issues of personal values to a verbal level. Perhaps the most threatening reason to restrain violent reaction is a subculture may decide they like fighting. There doesn't have to be a reason besides they enjoy fornicating and fighting. Basically, deciding to enjoy any violence means you participant in their hobbies and interests. This is also true of life. Therefore, beyond simply getting a better grasp on what all those weird Goths are doing, a person may also want to reflect on how they interact with others.
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People outside the Goth Scene wonder what is going on and why it appears everyone is gay, Satanists, vampires or had difficult childhoods? This is a misconception caused by overwhelming support for being open-minded and tolerant. When thinking of the many ways people chose to live life, we are a minority in one sense or another. Should I take away someone else's rights and hope to be protected by the larger group?
On the internet and media forums it appears most think all Goths are gay or lesbians. This is not true. In fact, the overall Goth population follows basic statics applied to all large groups. Most live a heterosexual lifestyle. There are philosophical deterrents against anyone attempting to harm or condemn homosexual lifestyle. One deterrent is the belief homophobes are outraged by homosexuals because conservative values make it impossible to "come out-of-the-closet."
This is only one deterrent. Not wanting to give the impression Goths are going to start fights over beliefs, I would like to tell a story about how Goths instigate social precedence. When I was a teen, it was discovered, a guy was harassing gay men. They found parks gays preferred and beat them up because they were tired of men flirting or touching them inappropriately.
Totally unacceptable to most Goths, not for homophobic, they attacked anonymous people. They did not make a direct attempt to resolve issues with the person or people harassing them. This is a sign of weakness and continues hostility beyond the two parties causing an issue. People are abrasive when people get hostile. In addition, they might be labeled a homophobic; however, no one understands why they could not say, "This is my space. You cannot go around touching people inappropriately and definitely not me, because I am not okay with this." (Not too mention I've heard cupping a man's gentiles with a hand is to verify if they are a sex-worker. If you are not, they need to know, even if resorting to violence.)
Sure, it is somewhat normal for a Goth, gay or straight, to get drunk and decide to fondle as many people as possible. There is no real reason. Goths tend to be knowledgeable of other cultures habits. At most, standing up to aggressive people causes a verbal discourse with gossip and catty maneuvering. However, I don't want to be sexually harassed by women or men. It is valid to resist intrusive people who ignore personal boundaries. In allowing people to live as they will it is an automatic expectation they will do the same in return. Of course, there are spinoff subgroups deciding they will go against everyone, including Goths, because it is what they want to do. It becomes confusing after a long time.
Tolerance is incredibly dissimilar to accepting everyone so much a person will do what everyone else is doing. There is an ethical line in Goth Culture. Most people believe in tolerance and being accepting of other people's cultures. Several people even go so far in an opposing direction they become ignored. Beating up people for no reason even though their group largely supports attacking other groups is essentially the same. People want to say it is different, but not really.
In the example of voyeurism and identifying people as wanting sex sends a message of enjoying sex. There are other people who already found they like sex also wanting sex and not get charged. It appears to be a happy resolution and finding new friends. This is also true in violence. It does not depend on who was violent or for what reason. You like violence and so do they. They found a new auxiliary. What a joyous occasion of finding compatible friendship. I enjoy hiking, difficult finding fellow hikers, if anyone is interested.
Most Goths prefer keeping issues of personal values to a verbal level. Perhaps the most threatening reason to restrain violent reaction is a subculture may decide they like fighting. There doesn't have to be a reason besides they enjoy fornicating and fighting. Basically, deciding to enjoy any violence means you participant in their hobbies and interests. This is also true of life. Therefore, beyond simply getting a better grasp on what all those weird Goths are doing, a person may also want to reflect on how they interact with others.
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Wednesday, December 15, 2010
Extreme Goth
The Goth Scene has two golden rules: be extreme and open-mindedness.
One of the major extremes is excess. Even the Goth Bible advertises to excessive Goths who need Vampires wine and expensive clothes. A life of excess also extends into finding new excess. Erotic activities; such as, feathers, candle wax, silk sheets, sadomasochism and orgies. Some find new pleasures in the area of clothing, food or attending lavish parties and clubs every night of the week. Need for extremes, creates eating disorders by being extremely thin or extremely fat; wherein, the only detestable trait is average.
The flip side is excessive pain, despair, isolation, intellectual pursuit and morality. Today's focus is on extreme pleasure, release and shallowness. Life is always fun, yet there is no in-between. How the majority of a person's time is what a person will have eventually. As an open-minded group people will not judge activities only evaluate in relation to personal desires. Anything a person can think of, there is a willing participant, so as a teen it is easy to navigate through various experiences to prioritize activities.
An activity a Goth might experience is club life. Club life can be great when someone dresses and dances well. Go out every night to all-ages clubs and spend late hours with friends at a house party. It can be time consuming. People may want alcohol or sex. A person decides if it is something they want to try out. However, laws regarding minors apply to Goths as much as the rest of society.
Perhaps clothing is the intrigue or maybe it is dance and exercise making the activity fun. Sometimes it is about attention and being accepted like a local celebrity. Whatever it is, decide quickly. People are confused when thinking sex means acting or violence means popularity. Sex equals sex. Violence equals violence. Acting equals acting classes. Dancing equals dance classes. Mechanics equals repairing cars. Writing equals writing classes. Animation equals drawing. A person ends up doing what they spend most of their time doing.
Another fun activity relies on stories of Lord Byron or Ancient Greeks to find avenues of decadence. Fairly reserved for the wealthy, they may enact a tradition of making nine to twenty courses of food for over fifty of their closest friends. Of course, no one can consume all that food in one sitting, so they purge food as they dine and drink various wines for an ongoing weekend of fun.
This sounds wonderful. Everyone enjoys knowing wealthy people; however, in order to fully participate in the grandeur of the allusion is recognizing roles. The person who pays for the feast is Caligula, while lesser roles are members of the court. The idea of attending one of these galas is somewhat threatening, because Caligula was not always well-mannered. Maturity exists when people realize nothing is for free.
Hopefully, the importance of selecting an extreme is obvious. As a youth there is plenty of time to try everything and decide what is really important in life; however, eventually a huge learning-curve appears as it is complicated going from sadomasochism to becoming a scientist. Perhaps the subscription to Popular Science was entertaining, yet it does not qualify someone for an internship; therefore, 80% of waking hours should be spent working towards making the glorious super self image come true. The other twenty percent is spent on thrills.
The only harmful activity is remaining "wishy-washy." A person cannot play be two super beings forever. People might have relationship problems. They pursue someone wanting to become a famous artist, yet enjoy orgies. The artist eventually decides they don't want that in their life. People going to orgies must realize it was their choice. There is someone for everyone. Many Goths entertain the most desirable mate is a nymphomaniac or asexual.
Recognize the importance of communication and consideration of desires. Often the casual sadomasochist showing up on the weekend to get tied up looks stunningly similar to the practicing or professional sadomasochist. The "weekend warrior" causes major damage to anyone demeaning their character through slander, let alone besmirching activities. This is similar to Vampires verses Camarilla. Turns out Live Action Role Players return to work and do not want an idiot spreading vicious lies about personal activities making it extremely dangerous to make assumptions when finding a large group of Goths.
Being in the Goth Scene is a great deal of fun. In fact, the emphasis on being and doing whatever you want combined with open-mindedness creates an accepting society based on second-chances and forgiveness. However, there is an emphasis on being intelligent, because when suffering duplicity all a person with hear is, "It was your choice."
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One of the major extremes is excess. Even the Goth Bible advertises to excessive Goths who need Vampires wine and expensive clothes. A life of excess also extends into finding new excess. Erotic activities; such as, feathers, candle wax, silk sheets, sadomasochism and orgies. Some find new pleasures in the area of clothing, food or attending lavish parties and clubs every night of the week. Need for extremes, creates eating disorders by being extremely thin or extremely fat; wherein, the only detestable trait is average.
The flip side is excessive pain, despair, isolation, intellectual pursuit and morality. Today's focus is on extreme pleasure, release and shallowness. Life is always fun, yet there is no in-between. How the majority of a person's time is what a person will have eventually. As an open-minded group people will not judge activities only evaluate in relation to personal desires. Anything a person can think of, there is a willing participant, so as a teen it is easy to navigate through various experiences to prioritize activities.
An activity a Goth might experience is club life. Club life can be great when someone dresses and dances well. Go out every night to all-ages clubs and spend late hours with friends at a house party. It can be time consuming. People may want alcohol or sex. A person decides if it is something they want to try out. However, laws regarding minors apply to Goths as much as the rest of society.
Perhaps clothing is the intrigue or maybe it is dance and exercise making the activity fun. Sometimes it is about attention and being accepted like a local celebrity. Whatever it is, decide quickly. People are confused when thinking sex means acting or violence means popularity. Sex equals sex. Violence equals violence. Acting equals acting classes. Dancing equals dance classes. Mechanics equals repairing cars. Writing equals writing classes. Animation equals drawing. A person ends up doing what they spend most of their time doing.
Another fun activity relies on stories of Lord Byron or Ancient Greeks to find avenues of decadence. Fairly reserved for the wealthy, they may enact a tradition of making nine to twenty courses of food for over fifty of their closest friends. Of course, no one can consume all that food in one sitting, so they purge food as they dine and drink various wines for an ongoing weekend of fun.
This sounds wonderful. Everyone enjoys knowing wealthy people; however, in order to fully participate in the grandeur of the allusion is recognizing roles. The person who pays for the feast is Caligula, while lesser roles are members of the court. The idea of attending one of these galas is somewhat threatening, because Caligula was not always well-mannered. Maturity exists when people realize nothing is for free.
Hopefully, the importance of selecting an extreme is obvious. As a youth there is plenty of time to try everything and decide what is really important in life; however, eventually a huge learning-curve appears as it is complicated going from sadomasochism to becoming a scientist. Perhaps the subscription to Popular Science was entertaining, yet it does not qualify someone for an internship; therefore, 80% of waking hours should be spent working towards making the glorious super self image come true. The other twenty percent is spent on thrills.
The only harmful activity is remaining "wishy-washy." A person cannot play be two super beings forever. People might have relationship problems. They pursue someone wanting to become a famous artist, yet enjoy orgies. The artist eventually decides they don't want that in their life. People going to orgies must realize it was their choice. There is someone for everyone. Many Goths entertain the most desirable mate is a nymphomaniac or asexual.
Recognize the importance of communication and consideration of desires. Often the casual sadomasochist showing up on the weekend to get tied up looks stunningly similar to the practicing or professional sadomasochist. The "weekend warrior" causes major damage to anyone demeaning their character through slander, let alone besmirching activities. This is similar to Vampires verses Camarilla. Turns out Live Action Role Players return to work and do not want an idiot spreading vicious lies about personal activities making it extremely dangerous to make assumptions when finding a large group of Goths.
Being in the Goth Scene is a great deal of fun. In fact, the emphasis on being and doing whatever you want combined with open-mindedness creates an accepting society based on second-chances and forgiveness. However, there is an emphasis on being intelligent, because when suffering duplicity all a person with hear is, "It was your choice."
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